If you’d asked me 10 years ago how I felt about change in general, I would have said, “I love it! Bring it on!”
But now I know better.
The more I learn about change, the more humbled I am about how much it still affects me. I still love it in many ways, but I also find it challenging – especially if I feel out of control or if I don’t like what’s required to adapt – even if it might benefit me in the long run.
I’m grateful for all the learning that change brings with it. But no matter how many tools or theories or experiences I accumulate, my human reactions and judgments still call for perpetual vigilance. That is, if I want to practice what I preach.
The problem with being aware of your own challenges, though, is that you can’ t deny them.
And once you’re aware of something, that just adds pressure (or motivation) to do something about it. You can decide to ignore it if you want to, but the difference is that you’re owning your decision to ignore it, instead of just copping out.
But as someone who has spent many years of her life denying anything that wasn’t glowingly positive, I’ll take painful awareness any day!
Truth can be hard at times, but it is always better to know than to not know. Although nowadays whenever I ask for truth, I also seek the tools to accept it and actively deal with it if necessary. Otherwise, I become the poster child of “You can’t handle the truth.”
So what I’ve learned about my own approach to change is that I can love it or hate it if I want to, but a more practical approach is to use it as a tool.
Change as a tool can expand awareness of who we really are, help us connect with each other on a deeper level, and propel us forward into the next set of challenges and opportunities that constitute human experience.
And with this greater awareness and accountability, we become better equipped to make the world a better place. At least, our own world. And what better place to start?